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Before I hop on into all of my thoughts in regards to having three kids, let’s chat for a tiny bit about Smilo. As many of you know, I spoke to you about their baby bottles in the fall. It’s the ONLY bottle that our little man will take when I am gone. He even had a period of time when he refused everything but NOW he only takes those when I am at work. When I found out that they were releasing a sippy cup, I was so excited to try it because this is a brand that I have truly loved. I love the texture of the spout on this sippy cup, our little man loves chewing on it and the parts are SO easy to clean. Some sippy cups make it impossible for you to clean all the parts thoroughly but not these! Easy peasy! The girls also loved them!
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One of the questions I get a lot of emails and messages about is in regards to having three kids. Is it difficult? How was the transition from 2 to 3? How do you do it? I have to say that a lot of the answers to these questions is based on the day that you ask them. There are great days and there are not so great days where I feel defeated and unaccomplished. However, there is one thing I know for sure and that’s this…..
I wouldn’t have it any other way.
I always knew I wanted to have a big family. I grew up an only child always wishing for another sibling and I think that is part of the reason that I yearn for that sibling love for my own children. I can honestly say that after chasing three kids now for the last 8 months, I still think that it was the hardest going from 0 children to having 1 child. That was the hardest, most eye opening experience for me. You lose your quiet time, your ability to drop whatever you’re doing and head to the gym, and your sleep. Personally, I thought I was doing everything wrong those first few months with my first and I worried constantly. It was one of the hardest times in my life and looking back, I know I was depressed. Once my hormones leveled out and I was able to get my two feet back on the ground, I started worrying less and decided that maybe it was time to add a second.
My first born is the nurturer. She follows in my footsteps and tends to her baby sister and brother as I would and she has been a huge help along the way. Depending on the personalities of your children, you may view these transitions differently, but for me the transition from 1 to 2 children was the easiest so far. I would nurse while my little one played in the playroom, we would go for walks in the double stroller, we were able to easily tackle two children while we were out because we were never outnumbered. As our second daughter grew older, she started playing with our oldest and it was so great to have built in play buddies.
I would be lying to you if I said that I wasn’t nervous to add a third. People would always say “Are you ready to be outnumbered?!” Which I always thought was a silly question to ask. How can you really ever be READY to be outnumbered? The most challenging task are the many nights that I spend alone making dinner for all the kids and myself, doing bath time and getting them all down for bed at a reasonable hour by myself. For whatever reason I can handle mornings and afternoons just fine but the nights are where I start to struggle. I spend a lot of time wearing the little man while I get the other two dinner, baths and dressed for bed. I also try to teach them all independence as much as possible. It is a HUGE help that our oldest can help her younger sister brush her teeth and get ready for bed. When I take a step back and look at the big picture, I honestly feel way less overwhelmed with THREE than I did with ONE and handle situations a lot differently now. I try to worry less and I am constantly working on ways to manage stress better. Once I started incorporating exercise back into my life, this has become MUCH easier for me.
The decision to grow your family needs to be 110% your own and you need to go with your gut for what you feel will work. For me, I thrive off of the challenges of motherhood. Tackling IKEA with three kids in tow by myself is a task that I look forward to accomplishing. I love being able to stretch that limit of what I think I can handle and most of the time it goes pretty darn well. Building up the courage and setting expectations ahead of time helps A TON. When making the decision to grow your family, sit down with your spouse and talk about your concerns, the benefits, the struggles and lay them all out on the table to address them. It’s important to make sure that these are all addressed before taking that next step because both of you need to be ALL IN.
Lastly, I am not sure this is our last. That is a really difficult thing for me to comprehend and I am not ready to say that I am done bearing children. Right now, I need to be able to balance work better and find a routine with our three nuggets that works best for us. I want to make sure that all of our children get 1:1 time with each of us and I want to be better about all of that before thinking of growing our family. We may decide in 1-2 years that this is where our family is most comfortable, but only time will tell!
I would love to hear your own thoughts about growing your family. What transition has been the most difficult/easiest for you?