Our Journey with Three Kids

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Before I hop on into all of my thoughts in regards to having three kids, let’s chat for a tiny bit about Smilo. As many of you know, I spoke to you about their baby bottles in the fall. It’s the ONLY bottle that our little man will take when I am gone. He even had a period of time when he refused everything but NOW he only takes those when I am at work. When I found out that they were releasing a sippy cup, I was so excited to try it because this is a brand that I have truly loved. I love the texture of the spout on this sippy cup, our little man loves chewing on it and the parts are SO easy to clean. Some sippy cups make it impossible for you to clean all the parts thoroughly but not these! Easy peasy! The girls also loved them!

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Best sippy cup that we have found that is easy to clean and great for a baby transitioning from the bottle!

One of the questions I get a lot of emails and messages about is in regards to having three kids. Is it difficult? How was the transition from 2 to 3? How do you do it? I have to say that a lot of the answers to these questions is based on the day that you ask them. There are great days and there are not so great days where I feel defeated and unaccomplished. However, there is one thing I know for sure and that’s this…..

I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Best sippy cup that we have found that is easy to clean and great for a baby transitioning from the bottle!

I always knew I wanted to have a big family. I grew up an only child always wishing for another sibling and I think that is part of the reason that I yearn for that sibling love for my own children. I can honestly say that after chasing three kids now for the last 8 months, I still think that it was the hardest going from 0 children to having 1 child. That was the hardest, most eye opening experience for me. You lose your quiet time, your ability to drop whatever you’re doing and head to the gym, and your sleep. Personally, I thought I was doing everything wrong those first few months with my first and I worried constantly. It was one of the hardest times in my life and looking back, I know I was depressed. Once my hormones leveled out and I was able to get my two feet back on the ground, I started worrying less and decided that maybe it was time to add a second.

Best sippy cup that we have found that is easy to clean and great for a baby transitioning from the bottle!

My first born is the nurturer. She follows in my footsteps and tends to her baby sister and brother as I would and she has been a huge help along the way. Depending on the personalities of your children, you may view these transitions differently, but for me the transition from 1 to 2 children was the easiest so far. I would nurse while my little one played in the playroom, we would go for walks in the double stroller, we were able to easily tackle two children while we were out because we were never outnumbered. As our second daughter grew older, she started playing with our oldest and it was so great to have built in play buddies. 

Best sippy cup that we have found that is easy to clean and great for a baby transitioning from the bottle!

I would be lying to you if I said that I wasn’t nervous to add a third. People would always say “Are you ready to be outnumbered?!” Which I always thought was a silly question to ask. How can you really ever be READY to be outnumbered? The most challenging task are the many nights that I spend alone making dinner for all the kids and myself, doing bath time and getting them all down for bed at a reasonable hour by myself. For whatever reason I can handle mornings and afternoons just fine but the nights are where I start to struggle. I spend a lot of time wearing the little man while I get the other two dinner, baths and dressed for bed. I also try to teach them all independence as much as possible. It is a HUGE help that our oldest can help her younger sister brush her teeth and get ready for bed. When I take a step back and look at the big picture, I honestly feel way less overwhelmed with THREE than I did with ONE and handle situations a lot differently now. I try to worry less and I am constantly working on ways to manage stress better. Once I started incorporating exercise back into my life, this has become MUCH easier for me. 

Best sippy cup that we have found that is easy to clean and great for a baby transitioning from the bottle!

The decision to grow your family needs to be 110% your own and you need to go with your gut for what you feel will work. For me, I thrive off of the challenges of motherhood. Tackling IKEA with three kids in tow by myself is a task that I look forward to accomplishing. I love being able to stretch that limit of what I think I can handle and most of the time it goes pretty darn well. Building up the courage and setting expectations ahead of time helps A TON. When making the decision to grow your family, sit down with your spouse and talk about your concerns, the benefits, the struggles and lay them all out on the table to address them. It’s important to make sure that these are all addressed before taking that next step because both of you need to be ALL IN. 

Best sippy cup that we have found that is easy to clean and great for a baby transitioning from the bottle!

Lastly, I am not sure this is our last. That is a really difficult thing for me to comprehend and I am not ready to say that I am done bearing children. Right now, I need to be able to balance work better and find a routine with our three nuggets that works best for us. I want to make sure that all of our children get 1:1 time with each of us and I want to be better about all of that before thinking of growing our family. We may decide in 1-2 years that this is where our family is most comfortable, but only time will tell! 

I would love to hear your own thoughts about growing your family. What transition has been the most difficult/easiest for you?

12 Comments

  1. Stephanie
    April 26, 2018 / 1:06 pm

    I agree going from 0 children to 1 child was the hardest transition. The loss of “freedom” was the most difficult part. It also didn’t help that none of my close friends had children so I often felt left out and lonely. Going to two children was easier because I already knew what to expect but again the loneliness of not having anyone to relate to continued to be hard. For me going from 2 to 3 children was the easiest transition for a few reasons, 1) my youngest was five when I had my third this year 2) I had a miscarriage before my third baby and I think it made me more appreciative and has helped me live more in the moment and to not take anything for granted. The hardest part about having three for me has been the laundry, it’s insane how much laundry I have each week and I drown in it and keeping up with the big kids schedules. My oldest is now 8 and is such a huge help. I think if I had my kids a lot closer together it may have been harder. Though I would love another child because I love the baby phase, I was lucky enough to have three healthy csections which made me realize that I am done even though it’s so hard to say goodbye to this phase of my life.

  2. Christa
    April 26, 2018 / 3:05 pm

    I agree! I was the only child and wanted so bad for my daughter to have siblings. I’ve had some bumps in the road with unexpected illness with my mother that prevented us for a time trying for a third. But now I’m 38 and I’m so confused whether to give it another try?!?! I just don’t feel complete but when I talked to my Dr and everyone else they think I’m nuts. Am I?!?!

    • Lizzie
      April 27, 2018 / 10:04 am

      I don’t think you are, my mom had her four babies at ages 36, 38, 40 and 42, all perfectly healthy and uncomplicated. All children are a blessing!

    • Jennifer
      April 27, 2018 / 10:53 am

      You are not nuts! I just had my second at 38 and honestly among my friends we are all having our babies later in life. If you truly want to try you should and not let age deter you ;).

    • Kimberly didrikson
      April 27, 2018 / 6:40 pm

      I’m on my 3rd at 38. I think it is all what is right for you and the family. Both my husband and I couldn’t stop wondering about having a 3rd so went for it. Our kids are newly turned 4, 2, and I’m expecting in June with our 3rd.

  3. Sarah
    April 26, 2018 / 3:44 pm

    I love your blog and instagram…and your views on life, motherhood, and family! I’m currently deciding on having a second child. I always thought I would have two children. But, going through a divorce when my son was 16 months changed my projected path. My baby is now a five year old, I am remarried to an amazing man, and I’m a few months shy of turning 36. Plans clearly changed and my life is very different than I thought it would be. I now worry about what a blended family would look like for us (I have my son 90% of the time), how my son would cope with my husband and I having a baby of our own, how it will affect my marriage (my first marriage went sideways after my son was born), and the fact that I thought I would stop having babies by now. I teach full time and even with one child, I feel busy. But, there is a longing for another…a fear as well…a fear of things not going as well as I would want…but, also a fear of losing out on something amazing if I didn’t try. Love hearing your struggles, but all the positives that come along with them!! xo

  4. Stacey
    April 26, 2018 / 4:12 pm

    Great post! I have baby #2 on the way and the transition from 0 to 1 was definitely hard – so I am hoping the transition from 1 to 2 is a little easier. Any quick tips for how to get back into exercising? That is the one thing I miss the most about having kids – I find I have little time for exercising. Just about the time I felt I was ready to get back into exercising, I got pregnant. This is a goal I have once baby #2 comes as I know this will be my last baby. I just want my body back!! Thanks in advance!

  5. Marissa
    April 26, 2018 / 5:39 pm

    Love love love this post! I actually wanted to hear from you on this subject! I’m currently 23 weeks with my second. My first is 2 and a couple months and I have days where I am so excited for pregnancy to be over because this one has been hard, but then I think OMG how am I going to do toddler and a newborn? Wine, the answer is wine and naps (whenever I can get those). I literally lie awake at night scared to death, because honestly after my first born it took months for me to get out of postpartum. Thankfully I knew right away what was happening and didn’t wait to seek help but being the first in my group of friends and family to have a kid doesn’t help. Neither did the fact we moved to a new state. Still looking to meet some Mom friends in my area but I might have just done that thanks to you and BeautyCounter! 😉 So hopefully 1 to 2 is smoother and easier than 0 to 1 was.
    Lots of love!

  6. Anne
    April 26, 2018 / 8:27 pm

    0-1 was really hard for me. Our son was colicky, many of my friends didn’t have kids yet, and as you said, you lose most of your freedom. It’s a whole new lifestyle. I felt depressed. Now we have a three year old and a daughter who is 10 months… I find that this is way easier than having one. Second time around I was more confident and already used to the lifestyle so I think that’s why it wasn’t so overwhelming. It’s helps that she is a much easier baby as well! Already looking forward to having a third!

  7. Hayley
    April 26, 2018 / 10:46 pm

    We added our third daughter three months ago to the family and its definitely been the most challenging transition for me. With the first two girls I was in nursing school, so even though it was a crazy, caotic, very sleep deprived time I had some alone time and adult time. I was super depressed after my first baby girl (her birth was traumatic and preterm) so looking back I am so thankful I had the opportunity to step away from home life into school. Adding a second was no problem! The girls were 18 months apart so I was already doing this “baby” thing and I had already lost my independence! She was born 12 days before my last semester started. Baby number three… most painful birth and man has she thrown me off my normal groove. Still 13 weeks later I am still working on it. It has definitely improved but it is still hard. Mornings are the hardest for me for sure; usually my bigger girls wake me up in bed and I am so exhausted I can barely move. It takes all my might to get up and get their breakfast started (they are only 4 and 2.5 so they still need a lot of help). Anyway, despite the difficulty, like you I am not sure I am done. Glad I don’t have to decide now! In a year or two we will know what is beat for our family! Love you Instagram and blog. – Hayley

  8. Greta
    April 27, 2018 / 12:54 pm

    Yes! 0-1 was absolutely the hardest (and I have 4 now-ages 9, 7, 4 and 9 months). The second hardest for me was adding my 4th, only because my first three are so close in age that no one went to school or had sports when they were all babies. Now life is so different and so busy that this last baby has been harder on me. But still not as hard as becoming a mom for the first time!

  9. Liz
    April 27, 2018 / 3:21 pm

    I love following your blog! I love how genuine you are in your blogs and posts. You have a beautiful! I have 4 little ones under the age of 7 and for us going from 1-2 was actually the hardestz. A lot of that had to do with my work schedule at the time (fellow PA here 😊) and the fact that number 2 was just a very difficult baby. I felt the same way as you did after number 3 and struggled with the decision to have a fourth for a number of different reasons. My biggest concern was balancing one on one time. I’m not going to lie, there is a whole lot of craziness in our house with 4, but I wouldn’t have it any other way! We work very hard to schedule 1:1 time with the 3 older ones (youngest is 7 mo) and it’s not always as much or as often as we would like thanks to crazy sports schedules, homework, school schedules but the one thing I have learned over the years is there is really no better gift you can give them than a sibling. They absolutely adore one another it truly melts my heart when I take one out to the movies and they beg me to bring popcorn home for their younger brother or sister.

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